Compassion Trumps Judgement: When Authority Figures Need Your Help
Dealing with someone suffering from a substance abuse problem can be tough. The situation becomes even tougher when the person suffering from it is a loved one.
Things are a bit different when it’s an authority figure (e.g. parent, older siblings, or guardians) who is dealing with drug and alcohol abuse. Rather than helping lead you in the right direction, they are the ones on the wrong path. As a result, you’re in charge of leading them towards a life free from whatever it is that’s holding them back. But doing so is far from easy; chances are you will constantly find yourself in a struggle.
When authority figures fail, judging them is second nature. It’s harder to respect them, let alone take orders from them. Giving up on them might even cross your mind along the way.
But it shouldn’t be an option.
Everyone is Human
Let’s face it: no one is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone falls short one way or another. In your case, a loved one you look up to is currently dealing with drugs and alcoholism. While this problem may affect your perception of who they are as a person, they are still human — they will make mistakes.
Since you are also human, judging others is something you are bound to do. Society looks down on people like them, so your frustrations are justified, right? After all, how can you respect someone who failed to respect you and themselves?
Still, being human is no excuse to judge others. If you wish for your loved one to recover, belittling them is not the key — loving is.
Love, Not Judgement
According to Renaissance Ranch Ogden, an addiction treatment center, showing compassion is one of the best ways to help your loved one take that first step. Rather than blame them for their troubles, encourage them through compassionate love. It’s not easy and it requires controlling your emotions and extra patience. But remember — you love this person and you want them to get better.
Your loved one cannot fix the problem themselves. Shove aside all ill-feelings and focus on what matters: help them through the process of recovery. Walk them through information and help them gain access to support programs.
Judging others will not do anything in your loved one’s case. Help them get better by expressing compassion and tough love, even if it’s hard. Don’t worry — with prayer and constant support, your efforts will pay off.